I started writing The Vitmar Chronicles in January 2008 and published the first installment last October.
I felt like a failure for a long time, having never released it. I found everything else in the world to work on. I built a music media and a CrossFit gym, but those weren't what I wanted.
I gave up my music media because it wasn't giving back close to what I gave it. 10 years of hard work and labor down the drain.
I gave up my CrossFit gym because the people I worked with were terrible at communication and I was not okay with most of the decision-making and was always overruled.
We hope that once we finally do what we truly love, things will fall into place, but I only made 15 sales total when TVC Vol 1 came out.
But I have always believed that the dichotomy is succeed vs give up, not fail, and I've yet to find any reason to give up.
But yes you're right about success being scary and unpredictable.
And hey, if you'd like reading life takes in a world much, much kinder than our own? Do consider trying the teaser from The Vitmar Chronicles 😅
That's so awesome that you didn't give up! And I agree... Unless I have a very valid reason to "give up" and that's actually the most loving thing I can do for myself, I think success is just not having given up, regardless of what the outcome is. Besides, we get to decide for ourselves what success is and how it feels like.
Thanks for commenting and for sharing the teaser to your series! ☺️
trueee! I never linked it to my sensitivity but it makes sense... Being able to feel other peoples emotions can be so challenging, especially when you can sense their judgment, envy and their own insecurities - all the stuff that can come up when we're successful.
I remember doing a kinesiology test that confirmed I was ok having no money but not ok having a lot of money... similar theme here! As humans are such funny creatures sometimes 😆
Wow, that's wild!! And yes, because I think we hold so much fear about being in a good position, because we're afraid of how others will respond to us as a result or what that might mean about us. We really are funny creatures 😅
Part of my problem is I don’t feel or recognize new fears. I did fear success and failure. Failure I now see as a lesson learned and I don’t fear it as much. I have gone through the stages of fear of failure as you mentioned. I love knew experiences also but I also have physical limitations. What I don’t like are what people tell me what I should experience and if I say no they call it fear. My physical limitations are not visible and usually what I am saying no to involves something I know I can’t do. Communication is my favourite thing. I am not afraid of expressing myself. I love workshops, podcasts and discussions. I crave intellectual conversation. Many times I find that there are only a few of us that speak up and I wonder why. I identify that as the others must be afraid to speak up or lack of interest but they are present so I assume it is likely fear.
I am retired and business and career success are in the past. I agree with your definition of success and I am always looking for new experiences but experiences where expression is more important than physical activity. I am always looking for these kind of things and open to new opportunities. Interaction with people is exciting but two of my hardest fears to overcome has been rejection and judgement. I have had to work through them and at times I find myself reprocessing them. Thank you for your thoughts on success and failure and allowing me to comment.
Thank you so much for commenting and I really appreciate the honesty and vulnerability with which you commented!
What you say about your "No" usually being to something you know you can't do, is such a good point to make. Because there are "no"s that are as a result of fear, but there are also "no"s that are a result of self awareness, self care and self boundaries. And you are always going to be the best person to know which kind of "no" it is, others won't always be able to see that unfortunately. The ability to say these kinds of "no"s is a huge strength! I'm very much still learning that lesson.
Thank you so much for commenting!
And also thank you so much for signing up to be one of my ARC readers 🤭 I hope you're enjoying The Source of The Wind so far 🥰
I started writing The Vitmar Chronicles in January 2008 and published the first installment last October.
I felt like a failure for a long time, having never released it. I found everything else in the world to work on. I built a music media and a CrossFit gym, but those weren't what I wanted.
I gave up my music media because it wasn't giving back close to what I gave it. 10 years of hard work and labor down the drain.
I gave up my CrossFit gym because the people I worked with were terrible at communication and I was not okay with most of the decision-making and was always overruled.
We hope that once we finally do what we truly love, things will fall into place, but I only made 15 sales total when TVC Vol 1 came out.
But I have always believed that the dichotomy is succeed vs give up, not fail, and I've yet to find any reason to give up.
But yes you're right about success being scary and unpredictable.
And hey, if you'd like reading life takes in a world much, much kinder than our own? Do consider trying the teaser from The Vitmar Chronicles 😅
https://www.bearwiseman.com/creative-writing/the-vitmar-chronicles-volume-i-and-ending-and-a-beginning
That's so awesome that you didn't give up! And I agree... Unless I have a very valid reason to "give up" and that's actually the most loving thing I can do for myself, I think success is just not having given up, regardless of what the outcome is. Besides, we get to decide for ourselves what success is and how it feels like.
Thanks for commenting and for sharing the teaser to your series! ☺️
trueee! I never linked it to my sensitivity but it makes sense... Being able to feel other peoples emotions can be so challenging, especially when you can sense their judgment, envy and their own insecurities - all the stuff that can come up when we're successful.
I remember doing a kinesiology test that confirmed I was ok having no money but not ok having a lot of money... similar theme here! As humans are such funny creatures sometimes 😆
Wow, that's wild!! And yes, because I think we hold so much fear about being in a good position, because we're afraid of how others will respond to us as a result or what that might mean about us. We really are funny creatures 😅
yes... none of this is really serving anyone! let's move through it together ♥️
Part of my problem is I don’t feel or recognize new fears. I did fear success and failure. Failure I now see as a lesson learned and I don’t fear it as much. I have gone through the stages of fear of failure as you mentioned. I love knew experiences also but I also have physical limitations. What I don’t like are what people tell me what I should experience and if I say no they call it fear. My physical limitations are not visible and usually what I am saying no to involves something I know I can’t do. Communication is my favourite thing. I am not afraid of expressing myself. I love workshops, podcasts and discussions. I crave intellectual conversation. Many times I find that there are only a few of us that speak up and I wonder why. I identify that as the others must be afraid to speak up or lack of interest but they are present so I assume it is likely fear.
I am retired and business and career success are in the past. I agree with your definition of success and I am always looking for new experiences but experiences where expression is more important than physical activity. I am always looking for these kind of things and open to new opportunities. Interaction with people is exciting but two of my hardest fears to overcome has been rejection and judgement. I have had to work through them and at times I find myself reprocessing them. Thank you for your thoughts on success and failure and allowing me to comment.
Thank you so much for commenting and I really appreciate the honesty and vulnerability with which you commented!
What you say about your "No" usually being to something you know you can't do, is such a good point to make. Because there are "no"s that are as a result of fear, but there are also "no"s that are a result of self awareness, self care and self boundaries. And you are always going to be the best person to know which kind of "no" it is, others won't always be able to see that unfortunately. The ability to say these kinds of "no"s is a huge strength! I'm very much still learning that lesson.
Thank you so much for commenting!
And also thank you so much for signing up to be one of my ARC readers 🤭 I hope you're enjoying The Source of The Wind so far 🥰